Love your neighbors as yourself

so, i was listening to the sermon this morning about love, and this verse was referred to. it got me started to think about why God commanded us to love, but uses loving ourselves as a prompter to love our neighbors. hermeneutically questioning, well, why be reminded how we love ourselves to love others. first, i think this speaks of how there is no questioning of our self-ish love. that we readily and automatically think and love ourselves (which can be distordedly loving or idolatrously done), but that we do not necessarily do the same for our neighbors. i wonder how much of loving our neighbors can also be a reminder and a critique of how we communicate this love to ourselves and ultimately with others. that people we love can question whether the love we are expressing is being loving to them or more self serving, which create a flow between the self and the other in and by doing this, one can learn to love the self...there is that continuum of flow between the two and each can critique whether the love being communicated is being just to the other.