Change (recommmendation: you should listen to Tracy Chapman's "Change" while reading this)

So having gone through multiple meetings in collaboration with gov't agencies in how to determine and plan for the lives of children we care for, i find myself frequently frustrated and appalled that people who spend 1hr a month (the most for some) could determine and decide the lives of families and welfare of children. is this an isolated phenomena? i pessimistically don't think so since i've been to two different counties that inadequately think and relate with families who are crisis, yet casually decide how their lives ought to be lived. Change for the better needs to happen soon, but when individuals who are supposed to advocate for families are not always keeping the family's welfare in mind instead of their own, who will stand up for them?

Shift to another change...

Recently after speaking with a friend about such situations, references of other experiences, some first hand, continue to suggest that maybe, maybe, although there are some changes, we still have a long road to go. college students who are ordered to lie face down on the streets for an unverifiable and illegitimate road stop merely because the color of their skin did not fit the assumed appropriate ones of a community, really??! i emphasize this because if i am not careful of my own reactions, i could ask this question in such a disbelief, but could be interpreted in multiple ways...disbelief that it is shocking to hear about it because i cannot fathom because this is not my own reality; disbelief that people continue to be treated with such injustice that it is unfathomable...maybe disbelief and unfathomable are inappropriate labels the least, but also conceptualization. Disbelief and unfathomable are ready expressions, yet when one really thinks about it, these are pretty inappropriate things to say when one shares about horrible and unjust experiences that have been lived by many, and to say that they are unfathomable and are a disbelief, have maybe just distanced and somewhat denied the reality of one's experience. a change is necessary in our conceptualization, and hopefully a change in the reality that we live in how we treat and relate with others at the very least.

maybe when we change the way we relate and consider others could we be more CareFull in how we think and suggest how to help families and how we also relate and think of others.